Honey, you don't.... there's no such thing as self sabotage.  It's a constructed label. I'll unpack it for you, but first let's start at the beginning. 

“Why do I keep sabotaging myself?”

It’s one of the most common questions I hear.

And I completely understand why.

On the surface, it does look like sabotage.

You say you’ll go to the gym… and you don’t.
You plan to eat well… and you reach for chocolate.
You want the relationship to work… and you pull away.
You commit to the business idea… and then procrastinate.

From the outside, it looks like you’re getting in your own way.

But as the charming rebellious sagittarius that I am, I'd like to challenge this idea.

The Hidden Assumption Behind “Self-Sabotage”

The idea of self-sabotage rests on one very important assumption:

That there is a correct way to behave…
And that you are deviating from it.

But who decided what “correct” is?

Let’s take something simple.

You don’t go to the gym one morning.

Is that sabotage?

Or is it your b...

Hello friend.  If you're searching for Hypnotherapy Brighton or looking for a Brighton hypnotherapist, there is a good chance you are asking one important question before booking your first session:

Does hypnotherapy actually work, or is it just a stage trick?

It’s a fair question. Hypnosis has been surrounded by myths for decades. Swinging pocket watches. People clucking like chickens. Magicians in velvet jackets commanding the audience.

But clinical hypnotherapy is something very different.

Over the past 40 years, hypnosis has been studied in hospitals, psychology departments and pain clinics around the world. And the findings are increasingly clear: hypnosis can be a powerful therapeutic tool when used in the right context.

In this article, I want to walk you through what the research actually says. Not the hype. Not the marketing. But the science behind hypnotherapy.

What Is Hypnotherapy Really Doing in the Brain?

Hypnosis is best understood as a state of focused attention...

There’s a moment in the evening that many women recognise once they reach perimenopause or menopause.

The day has been full.
Productive, even.
You’ve eaten properly, moved your body, done what needed to be done.
You may even be on a medication that is supposed to quiet appetite altogether.

And yet, as the light fades, something wakes up inside you.

Not hunger exactly, not even emotional eating in the way it’s usually framed.

More like… a pull.
A niggle.
A sudden and very specific interest in something crunchy, sharp, stimulating.
An oral something.

It can feel slightly perplexing. You might even translate it as a lack of willpower, even though somewhere deep down you know that’s not really true. (And for the record, it definitely isn’t.)

This is especially uncomfortable for women who are used to being capable, regulated, and in control. Women who don’t usually find themselves circling the cupboards but well…. are.

Your body isn’t being difficult. 

It’s trying to find a way of r...

Why “Regression” Isn’t Dangerous When Done Right

Every so often, a debate flares up in the hypnosis or therapy world that claims age regression to be dangerous.  

You’ll hear people say it with conviction, as if ALL regression techniques belong to one big reckless bucket, as if anyone who guides a client back into childhood memories is automatically playing with fire.

But here’s the thing: when someone says “regression is dangerous,” it’s worth asking, which kind of regression are they talking about?

Because what most critics describe, and what most trauma informed practitioners actually do, are two entirely different things.

1️⃣ Memory Recovery Regression...The One That Is Risky

Let’s start with the one that gave regression a bad name: memory recovery regression.

This approach, popularised in the 1980s and 90s, often tried to “find out what really happened.” The idea was to dig into the subconscious and retrieve literal, factual memories of past events, sometimes even “recovere...

The Paradox of the ‘Strong-Minded’ Personality

When people first contact me for hypnotherapy in Brighton (or online), they often say, “I’m not sure if I can be hypnotised, I’m too strong minded.” It’s a belief that comes up again and again: the idea that hypnotherapy is about ‘losing control’ and that only people who are suggestible, passive, or ‘weak-willed’ can benefit.

But here’s the paradox, and something hypnotherapists like Adam Eason have spoken about extensively: being strong minded is NOT a barrier to hypnotherapy. In fact, it can be one of the greatest assets.

Strong minded individuals often thrive in hypnosis because of what they bring:  focus, imagination, collaboration and commitment.  These are exactly the qualities that make hypnotherapy so powerful.

Misunderstanding Hypnosis

We live in a culture where hypnosis has been presented through films, TV shows, or stage performances as something done to you. The hypnotist swings a pocket watch, you surrender, and your ‘str...

When Your Mind Won’t Switch Off

Have you ever felt like your brain is a hamster wheel you can’t step off? The same thought circling round and round, "what if this happens? did I really lock the door? what if something terrible occurs because I didn’t check again?" For people living with OCD or obsessive thinking, this isn’t just the occasional worry. It can feel like incessant torture.

I know, because so many of my clients in Brighton (and beyond) arrive at my door exhausted by their own minds. They don’t want to think these thoughts, they don’t believe the thoughts, but they feel compelled to obey them, repeat them, or neutralise them in some way.

The truth is, OCD isn’t about being “quirky neat” or “a bit controlling” (despite what the media often portrays). It’s about living in a body that never feels quite safe, a nervous system that’s constantly scanning for danger, and a brain that has latched onto repetitive thoughts and rituals as a form of control (and as an attempt to turn...

For many women, menopause doesn’t arrive as a neat, gradual transition. It can feel like a tidal wave crashing over everything you thought you knew about yourself. In Brighton, where I run my practice, I often hear women describe it as if their sense of being is unravelling, their mind is turning against them, and their body has become unpredictable. Sleep is patchy, moods are volatile, anxiety creeps in, libido drops, and confidence plummets. Suddenly, you’re not just dealing with hot flushes or night sweats you’re questioning your very sense of identity.

This is why menopause can feel like a breakdown.  But now being on the other side of it, I can say, hand on heart, it's more of a reconstruction than a breakdown.  It's an unravelling of outdated patterns, beliefs, and conditioning. And while it can be deeply unsettling, it also offers us a chance to rebuild ourselves in a way that feels more authentic, liberated, and aligned. Hypnotherapy (the way I do it) can be a profound ally on...

When people search for hypnotherapy Brighton, they often want to know what the actual experience will be like before they book in. It’s natural to feel a mix of curiosity, nerves, and hope. You might be wondering: Will I go under? What will it feel like? Will it actually work for me?

I’d love to take you behind the scenes and show you what it’s really like to have Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) with me here in Brighton (or online) from the moment you book, to what happens in the session, to the ripple effects that unfold afterwards.

Step One: The Consultation 

The process begins with a free 45 minute consultation call via zoom which you book yourself via the link at the bottom. This is where you get to ask questions, share a little about your situation, and most importantly, feel into whether I’m the right fit for you. Choosing a hypnotherapist in Brighton is about trust, resonance, and feeling safe, understood and supported.  

On this call, I listen carefully without judgeme...

Weight loss drugs like Ozempic and Wegovy are changing the game for many people, including me.

They can help regulate appetite, reduce cravings, and bring real results where other methods have failed. And yes, they work...I’ve seen the numbers on the scales drop and I’ve felt my clothes loosen.

But what I didn’t expect was this:
After the weight started shifting, I hit a wall.
A wall of burnout.  At first it felt like exhaustion but then I realised it was grief. 

It was confusing at first. Why grief? I was finally getting what I’d wanted right?  A lighter body.
But the truth is, even though the physical weight was leaving me, the emotional weight was still clinging to my system.

The Weight Beneath the Weight

GLP-1 drugs like Ozempic and Wegovy can change your body,  but they don’t change your emotional patterns.
They don’t help your nervous system feel safe in a new identity.
They don’t address the decades of meaning you’ve attached to food, weight, body image, or hunger.

What...